Wednesday, November 06, 2013

The Last Days

First of all, I apologize for my lack of updating. That's just not cool.

I spend my last week in Sri Lanka buying last minute gifts for my family and friends. I didn't want to do that, but sometimes you have to wait to buy things (spices) or you realize you got 2 things for your mom and only 1 for your dad. True story.

I remember going to Galle Face Green after some extensive shopping with Maia and Tudor. We had bought some kites on the beach and just spent some time on this beautiful promenade beside the ocean. The kites were each about $2.00. I got a 'winky face' kite, Maia got a striped kite, and Tudor got a Superman kite. I think Superman spent only minutes of the hour+ that we were there. He wasn't so 'super'. There were some kids watching us with their mother close by so I went to the vendor I bought my kite at and bought them one. They were super excited and all wanted to fly it at the same time. It was really cute and they all thanked me in their broken English.




After getting very windblown on the green we had dinner on the promenade. It was just a food stand with plastic tables and chairs around it. Very simple, but the view from this candle lit table was the sunset over the Indian Ocean. And since we are so close to the equator it sets in minutes... maybe seconds! There was also a strange horse walking up and down the promenade taking kids for little rides. I had a dish that was super spicy. I didn't end up eating more than 1/3 of it, but spicy does that to me... makes me feel full. They also provided us with a bowl and water for washing our hands before and after eating. Nice touch. Here was the legendary moment when Maia 'proposed' to me. We were both talking about how this food stand had such a romantic atmosphere and would be perfect for a proposal. Then and there is where it happened. People were watching as we were hootin' and hollerin' about it all. It was funny.

From the beachfront we migrated to a pub that was super sketchy and on some side street. It was cloudy with smoke. None of us got a good vibe so we left. We made two stops after that at Inn on the Green and another pub where we had some drinks and played cards. There was even a singer at one! It was a fun way to unwind. We ended up waiting a long time for a bus that got us home at who knows what hour. It was pretty late and a little sketchy, but since we were in a group I felt safer. I think that evening I probably crashed. It was a crazy day.

I don't remember much of what happened after that except for a series of goodbyes from the Nutrition Center and the Children's Rights Movement. They each gave me little tokens of their appreciation which was really touching. I have the contact information from these people. I want to stay in touch. I hope we do.

The night I was leaving we all stayed up and played cards. I think we were all laughing because we all reeked. It was funny. Maia helped me pack in the day... Oh my gosh is she a lifesaver! I had mountains of things practically taking up a whole bed. But somehow she made it work. I had extremely heavy luggage that Tudor helped me bring to the main floor.

It was early on August 27 when I headed to the airport. Maia was up so she said goodbye to me as I got in the Sarvodaya van. It was bittersweet. I definitely knew I would miss her company. But I also definitely knew I was going to be home the next day.

So, in the pitch black, dead of night, we pulled out of headquarters down to Galle Road. The familiar road I traveled the country on was finally leading me home.

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

What I Learned, What I Look Forward To, and What I Appreciate.

Alright. This is it. Less than a week left! I am more excited to go than I am sad to leave. It's been tough. But I've learned a lot.

1- I do not want to be with a job where I am away from home for so long. It isn't always fun to live out of a suitcase and not really have a 'home' of my own. All I have is a dorm room and shared bathroom. I don't want that to be my life.

2- I really value my family and having some sort of regular relationship that is long lasting. I made great friends here, but will I see them again? I'm not sure.

3- I can get sick anywhere and survive. Ant attack, ear infection, fever, vomiting, dizziness, diarrhea, dehydration, gastritis, you name it, I survived it. It's hard being away from your mom when you're sick. No matter how old you are. (Wise words from 'my favourite aunt who lives on Portage Ave.')

4a- As much as I love rigid schedules, it's not always the way society works. I've learned to adapt to "Sri Lankan Time". Let's meet at 1:30. That time comes. Oh, let's meet at 2:00. Then meetings get pushed and people are late and the culture here flies by the seat of their pants. I am learning how to 'go with the flow'.

4b- Don't expect to find out about something until too late. At 7:15am I was informed that the canteen was closed for the day. Had I known, I would have prepared better for my meals during the day.

5- Do buy yourself a familiar treat. Sometimes just having a bit of ice cream made me feel better... With most foods here being totally different, sometimes it's really nice to snack on something you know.

6- People seem impressed when you speak some words in their language or wear what is culturally appropriate. I always get nice comments about wearing a saree and also stumbling over Sinhala words. There was a woman who obviously was not from Sri Lanka dressed in very short shorts and a cropped tight and low cut tank top with body jewelry hanging out. That brings about unwanted attention and just makes you look stupid. Look around!

7- Even if there is something you might want to pack but don't know if you'll want/need it pack it anyways! There have been several times I just wanted my cuticle cutter! I debated bringing it but thought "Ehh.. I don't really use it much". Turns out that's the one thing I should have packed but didn't. I haven't seen anything like it at the store.

8- It's ok to cry! Even if it's the ugly cry. But maybe save the ugly cry for a private place.

9- Figure out what can or cannot be bought before traveling. Nepali and Sri Lankan stores do not sell roll on deodorant. Some don't even sell the spray on kind! Luckily I have enough!

10- Be assertive and stand up for yourself. Indicate clearly what you want and/or need and follow up! If you don't do that early on then you may regret it later. Since I was not assertive when I arrived I didn't accomplish all of the goals I wanted to. Don't do what you think someone wants you to do. Do what makes you happy. Make sure saying 'yes' to somebody else isn't actually a 'no' to yourself.

11- Don't put up with anything that makes you uncomfortable! Unkind words, unwelcome touch, etc.. And if you get that sketchy gut feeling, listen to it! One man offered Karen and I a free ride to somewhere about an hour and a half away. Weird since everyone here has a charge for something. Turns out he was interested in sex! Gross! Good thing we did not get in his car!

Things I'm ready for/that I now appreciate:

1- Not having rice 2x a day, every day.

2- Living in a cooler climate. 40C and humidity is hard to bear. Plus I'm always clammy or sweaty. Nasty.

3- Winnipeg's population is like, half a million. Colombo is 16 million. I'm really looking forward to fewer crowds and less pollution. Riding on transit makes my skin black and dirty from the pollution and exhaust. A layer of grime can always be scratched off of my skin.

4- No more tourist prices! The cost for a Sri Lankan person to go to the zoo: 100Rs. The cost for a tourist: 2000Rs.

5- I have had about 4-5 hot showers in 3 months. Only cold. While they're nice after a hot work day, I will love going back to warm showers. (Beth, every time the water is cold I think of how much you'd hate it)

6- Not worrying where my water came from. I had two sips of tap water and had terrible stomach cramps after. Drinking bottled water is wasteful but the only way to have cold water because it is safe.

7- I will not have to tuck in my mosquito net and make sure my bed is bug-free.

8- Things will be normal size, like beds and doorways! Also, clothes and shoes will be able to fit me! People here are very small and my feet hang over the bed, I duck for some doorways, and I'm like a XL in their sizes!

Well, I think that's all I have for now. Just reflecting. :)

Monday, August 19, 2013

Five Terrifying Needles


The last week has just been outrageous and I am very proud of myself for my accomplishments. After nagging Bandula on a few issues I have accomplished many things on my ‘Still to Do’ list.

Last weekend I went on a trip to Dambulla, Sigiriya, and also Polonnaruwa. I left after a morning chat with Max. I was very sad to say goodbye and to leave. He expressed his concern over me going alone and the troubles I may face being a lone, white, ‘attractive’, female. I think I try to be blissfully unaware, or at least I look for the good in everyone and try not to think about the disturbing things they may do. We were both a little worried, but I promised to call at major points along the way and send emails if possible. With this agreement I signed of, grabbed my bag, and headed towards Galle Rd.

I took a bus to Colombo first. Being the main city, most long-distance busses originate from the main bus depot at Colombo-Fort, which is close to the train station. I bought a few snacks to take with me, such as my beloved sausage bun (basically a small sausage in a doughy croissant), a sugar bun and yoghurt. The yoghurt here is ‘set’ yoghurt with gelatine, so it is like thick jello and only comes in vanilla flavour. It’s so good. I hopped on the bus that was going to Dambulla, paid my fare, and sat down for the ride.

The ride took forever. We were immediately stuck in traffic during lunch hour in line at a bridge that was down to one lane for repairs. It took about 45 minutes to go only a few kilometres. I had a young man sitting beside me who quickly fell asleep. A couple of times his head fell on my shoulder, and once he almost fell out of his seat! This pattern went on for over 2 hours! Somehow he woke up before his stop and got off. Another young man sat beside me. He also fell asleep like the first man for a couple of hours. I also had a short nap. It’s weird how the rocking of the bus puts people to sleep. I have noticed that many people nap on the bus. A little after 5 hours and one quick tea break (yes, the whole bus gets off for tea and food), we arrived in Dambulla. I asked someone on the street which way to the guest houses (since most are in the touristy area by the caves). He pointed me in the right direction and I began my walk.

At this time I was approached by many tuk tuks asking if I wanted a ride. “Where you going madam?” I called Max to tell him I arrived safely and was looking for a guesthouse to drop off my backpack prior to exploring. I knew he would feel better having heard from me. Along the way I asked one of the drivers if there was a cheap guesthouse close by. He said he knew one close to the main attraction and that he could take me there free of charge. This made me wary as the last time I was offered a free ride, things got really creepy! He told me about the Sunflower Inn and all its amenities. I remembered that in most cases, people will offer you a ride to the guesthouse for free if you end up staying there because they get commission. If you don’t stay, then there is a small charge. I agreed and he took me to said hotel. It was nice because the woman who owned it spoke English and showed me a variety of rooms. There are some with hot or cold showers, A/C or non-A/C at a wide range of prices. I went for the cheapest room at 1500Rs (about $12) with an overhead fan (‘non-a/c’) and a cold shower. It was a big room and even came with a resident frog in the bathroom! I freshened up and then headed out to the Dambulla Caves!

I arrived at the Golden Temple after a very short walk and got to see the giant Golden Buddha. I purchased my entry ticket and began the 100m climb to the 5 caves. It was about 300 stairs and since it was evening it had begun to cool down. Thank goodness! I can’t imagine doing that in the heat of the day because I was dripping. I was very stupid and forgot my handkerchief in the hotel room so I ended up wiping my sweat off on my shirt and hands. A little gross, but I had no one to impress anyways! At the top you must remove your shoes because it is a sacred site with a temple. For the low, low price of 20c I had someone watch my $100+ pair of Keens (worth the charge!) and I proceeded inside the temple grounds.

Along the rock face is a white wall. It’s not so much a wall, but looks like building fronts with fancy doorways and mouldings. But once you approach them you can soon realize that inside the doors are not houses, palaces, or stores, but caves with hundreds of shrines of the Buddha. In total, there are 5 caves and probably thousands of images. They come in the form of statues (various poses) and paintings. These paintings cover every inch of the walls and ceiling despite the uneven surfaces. It looks like someone just wallpapered each room with the ‘Meditative Buddha’ pattern. Inside some caves were stupas (white domes/temples) and also places for people to chant, worship, and present offerings. In one cave there was also a bucket that collects water that perpetually drips from the roof. It is unclear where the water even comes from but it’s been dripping for hundreds of years. This water is apparently used by the monks, but without my book near by, I can’t tell you what for. I will get back to you!

Anyways, the caves kind of blew my mind. First, who found them? Second, why in these caves? How did they get the statues there? Who hauled them up that massive hill? Or, did they carve out the caves and use the excess stone for the statues? The colours were still very impressive because the frescoes were sheltered by all the elements. I didn’t spend much time there, as there were many groups and in some caves it got pretty crowded. To be quite honest, Buddha, stupas, and shrines all share common characteristics and begin to look the same. I was feeling like ‘Ok, this is pretty wild that all of this is going on in these caves on a hill in Sri Lanka… but the image of Buddha hasn’t changed and it’s more of the same.’ The caves in Dambulla are very famous and I am very glad I had the opportunity to see them. When in Rome… err... I mean Sri Lanka?

From there I walked through a little market place outside the temple. These markets all sell the same cheaply made, ugly coloured, and tacky items for children. Many also sell items to offer such as flowers, food, and lotuses. I have noticed that depending on where you are in the country, markets have a special item that others don’t really have. Here they had a lot of cakes and sweets. Many were homemade and still in the pan and you could buy one piece all the way up to the whole pan! There were also sesame snaps, ‘toffee’, sticky jelly stuff, and I bought a little brick of nuts that was held together with something sweet like caramelized sugar or something similar. I perused the stands, although it was the same ‘gemstone’ rings and neon coloured cat plushies, potted fake flowers and copious amounts of sweet treats. I must note at this time that ‘sweet’ to Sri Lankans is like, diabetes-causing-sweet in the West. Cake is grainy because it’s mostly sugar; not that I’m complaining but rather I am giving an example. I will be bringing back some treats for people to try so they can also see… way sweet! I indulged in a little cup of chocolate/vanilla swirl ice cream on my walk to the Sunflower Inn.

Once I got home I promptly got ready to wash, as they say here. Basically you wash your hands and face before a meal, kind of to freshen up, but I was about to go for a full body wash. Determined to conquer the cold shower I agreed to, I marched to the bathroom. I was very startled to see the giant frog (which I mentioned before) sitting atop a wall-mounted mirror. I said ‘Oh my gosh’ and left the bathroom. I stopped and took a breath and was just thinking ‘Woah, I did not expect to ever stick my face that close to a frog. It’s there and I’m not going to move it. Just don’t startle it and maybe he won’t jump on you.’ I exhaled and went back in. My shower felt unbelievably good after just being drenched in sweat after a hot hike. I kept a careful eye on the frog the entire time. Maybe I should mention that bathrooms here don’t have a shower stall or bathtub. It’s just a tap at about knee level to wash your feet or to fill a basin and a showerhead sticking out of the wall at regular showerhead height. There is no curtain. The floors are tile and with a big squeegee, clean up is easy. There is a drain in the corner, typically by the toilet and sink that you can direct the water towards. So the mirror was adjacent to the showerhead, therefore, the frog and I were merely 2 feet apart… with no barriers protecting us from each other. Now that I think of it he must have been pretty freaked too. First, I’m a white girl, and that tends to scare children here. Second, I’m tall. That also scares children. Third, I came into HIS domain. I also was wondering, how did the frog get up to the mirror? He was perched approximately 6 feet above the ground and could not have jumped that high, could he? Can frogs climb? The most probably answer is that he magically appeared there with a ‘poof’ and cloud of smoke. The mystery remains unsolved.

 I proceeded to the dining room (once dressed, of course) and brought my iPod to take advantage of the wifi. I sent a few emails to let my loved ones know I survived and also to check the Winnipeg news. Dinner came and I impressed the staff with my ability to eat like a local- with my hand. There were many other guests in the dining room that I felt were judging me as they gave me weird looks. Whatever, at least I am embracing the lifestyle while I am here! I had a typical rice and curry meal with a coleslaw-type salad and fruit. I felt it was a little expensive at 550Rs ($4ish) compared to other places I’ve eaten. I went to lie in bed diagonally, as the bed was giant (two twins pushed together). It was so nice to finally have my feet actually not press against the bed net and be eaten alive. I set my alarm for early in the morning and closed my eyes.

After a breakfast of bread and fruit, I grabbed my backpack and purse and hit the road. After waiting for a bus for about 15 minutes, a tuk tuk driver approached me and asked to drive me to the bus station. I reluctantly agreed, as I wanted to save costs and take the bus, but it was also important for me to catch the Sigiriya bus and arrive in time to hike before it got too hot. It was about a 30-minute bus ride and once we got there, it was about a 15-minute walk to the entrance. I bought my ticket for 3900Rs (gulp), and once I turned away a guide, proceeded through to the grand entrance, which is basically a long road with many baths and moats along the side. I’m sure it must have been beautiful in its day! A man showed me the baths and gave me a little explanation about the path to take up the rock. Then he asked for a tip. Ugh. I hate that. They say you can give whatever you’re comfortable with, but then if you do that, they say it’s not enough. I was a little disappointed when he asked me for 400Rs, when I gave him 300. I thought that was generous for his 10-minute shpeel.

Looking up from the base of the rock to the top is terrifying. It is supposedly 200meters high and about 750 stairs. However, it looked a mile high with a billion stairs. The people on top of the rock looked like ants. I was a little discouraged and feeling sad because I didn’t think I could actually make it to the top. I was reflecting on my hike with Karen in Nepal to the Peace Pagoda and how I was struggling and was an unpleasant companion. At least at this walk no one would have to deal with my grumbling and groaning! Luckily Sigiriya is divided into two sections. The first bit includes many stairs with little landings and breaks to go see auditoriums, caves, and other ruins. You also approach the cave with beautiful frescoes of partially dressed women and then the mirror wall, which was actually reflective back in the day. There are some parts that are still so smooth you can wave your hand in front and see the reflection. Sadly, the wall has many scratches, including people etching their names into it. There are warning signs everywhere threatening fines and imprisonment if you are caught ‘wilfully destroying’ the mirror wall. There are also guards, and there is a rope keeping the crowds about 3ft away from the wall. Along this half there are many crowds and it gets pretty backed up. I found myself standing a couple of times enjoying the cool breeze halfway up the giant rock and above the tree line. I was totally ok with that. From the mirror wall you go up many steep stairs to the base of the lion’s paws! The other half of the ascent begins here. This landing is very big with places to rest and sit in the shade. Only the paws remain today, but the rock apparently had the full body of a lion in the front, I guess kind of like the sphinx in Egypt. This is why Sigiriya is also known as Lion Rock. The paws are protected today so no one can climb on them. From this point it is only stairs to the top with no landings to rest. Again, it was backed up and we were taking it slow. Again, I was ok with that. These stairs were not original but were steel and soldered to the rock and held in place with poles somehow. I didn’t ask questions. I kept climbing. Finally I got to the top. It was amazing! There are ruins of the old palace and royal bath. The rock looks over miles and miles of rainforest and you can see the Golden Buddha in Dambulla in the distance. You could see the shadows over the trees cast by the clouds, which seemed to be right beside you! It was an incredible sight! I sat down on one of the old walls and soaked it in. I took some shameless ‘selfies’, ate some crackers, chugged some water, took pictures, and proceeded to descend down the 750 stairs I took about an hour to climb. Going down was obviously much easier, however, my legs got very shaky at the bottom. Another man showed me the way to the exit along with the Cobra Hood Cave, and Rock Arches 1,2, and 3. Again, I was asked for a tip, but I said I only had 100Rs and gave it to him. Not entirely a lie, but oh well. Once at the exit I walked past the long line of gift shops, bought a jam bun, and got a tuk tuk to take me to the main junction to catch a bus to Polonnaruwa; the last leg of my weekend journey.

I arrived in Polonnaruwa at around 1:00 and with such a time constraint (last bus out to Colombo left at 4:30) I hired a taxi to drive me around to the ‘must see’ sites and had a ticket I could buy from him. After, he would take me to the bus depot in time for my Colombo bus. All in, it was 4000Rs. The ticket alone was 3250Rs (groan) but I thought I might as well just do it while I’m here! First he took me to see some ruins by the Archaeological Museum, which I also visited. The museum just had a bunch of ruins and statues and miniature representations of how the buildings probably looked centuries, and even millennia, ago. The first set of ruins was a palace on the water’s edge. There are royal baths and a ‘mausoleum’. In addition, there were 12 columns (still standing!) that describe the seating order of the council chamber they were in. I didn’t wander around too much here.

From this section the driver took me to see the King’s old palace. It was originally said to have 7 stories, but now there are only 2 because they were destroyed in a fire. There was another council chamber here with many columns and images of elephants along the wall outside of the hall. There was also a beautiful bath that has spouts where the water comes out through the open mouths of crocodiles. Pretty neat! From here we went to the Quadrangle, which is definitely the highlight of Polonnaruwa. The buildings weren’t huge, but there were lots of them and they had a lot of detail in the stonework. I got to see the Vatadage, a circular building with 4 Buddhas, a dagoba in the middle and ‘sculpted railings’. Apparently it is strongly believed that this was intended to be the home of the Tooth Relic (now in Kandy). Across from this was the Hatadage, a sanctuary that actually did hold the relic for some time. It has three doorways all leading back to a great room with statues of Buddha. You can look through all of the doorways up the few stairs of the Vatadage to see one of the Buddha statues there. It’s designed incredibly well. There were many other buildings and statues in what appeared to be a courtyard but these ones were the most impressive. Since this site is sacred, I had to take off my shoes. Luckily I was wearing socks. The sand and stone would have been far too hot on bare feet!

I bought two items from a vendor on my way out and the driver and I headed to Gal Vihara. Here there are 3 giant Buddhas carved into granite and other stone. Two were standing and one was ‘recumbent’. There was also a small shrine of a seated Buddha. This site is very important to Buddhists and was actually impressive. You see pictures of this site a lot. However, there is a ‘protective canopy’ over the site so it takes away some of the beauty of the place. I also had to remove my shoes before entering the roped off area with the statues.

Then the driver took me back to the bus depot, I paid him, and caught the bus leaving for Colombo. The ride was long… about 6 hours. The bus was packed but luckily I had a window seat beside a girl from England. There was a creepy dude looking down her shirt (which I thought was a little too low anyways) and he stroked my neck with his finger and pulled on my shirt collar. I immediately turned to him and told him to stop and I didn’t have another problem. I wasn’t going to deal with anything like that again.

Eventually I arrived in Moratuwa after transferring onto a bus in Colombo. I was one of 3 females on the whole bus. They were all workingmen with briefcases and suits who were returning to the city after weekends home. They kind of looked at me like ‘you don’t really belong here’ because women don’t really ride the bus late it seems. I wasn’t afraid, they just seemed curious. Anyways, I arrived home around 11:30 and was very tired. I showered very quickly and went to bed.

The next day was the last time I would see the girls at the trade school. I brought cake and ice cream to celebrate the completion of their program and visited for a bit. They gave me some gifts that were handmade, such as a wrap (sarong), crocheted doilies and some potted plant holders that looked like lotuses. I cried when I said goodbye. I have their addresses though so I can always write them!

That Tuesday I got up at 4:30am to go on a field visit to Ratnapura with the Child Development Unit. The drive took a couple of hours but we eventually got there. Basically we were visiting 4 villages. Two of them were receiving surveys to evaluate their programme, while the other 2 were being introduced to the programme set to begin there. I wasn’t sure what to expect really, but I ended up with a stack a mile high of evaluation surveys after listening to people speak a foreign language for 6 hours. I thought someone would translate for me, since people always mention that they will. It was boring and I didn’t go on any other field visits. I only entered the data into the documents I made and sent them in.

After breakfast the next morning, I proceeded to Colombo Fort railway station to catch a train to Rambukkana. There the Sarvodaya staff picked me up, and we proceeded back to the Kegalle District Center. I spent the afternoon sleeping in the office because I was still very tired from the past few days. Once the office closed at 4:30 we left for Damunupola where I would meet my host family and the place I’d be living for the next few days.

I was greeted by a woman with an anthurium bouquet and was invited inside for tea. The home was very nice and painted some exotic colours. I was shown my bedroom and the bathroom. Sarvodaya staff left and the woman made some food. After dinner I went to sleep. At about midnight, my light was turned on and some people were poking their heads in (no door, only a curtain) to see me. It woke me up, so I groaned and rolled over. Many people had come over to see me; some people just stop what they’re doing to look at me. I was not impressed! However, come morning I realized that it was actually my host family that peeked at me. They had been away for the evening and the woman from the night before was like a ‘stand-in’ host mom. How embarrassing! I apologized and we all laughed.

My days there were very fun. The mother, father (ex-parachute instructor with the Sri Lankan Airforce), daughter (10), and son (8) were all very hospitable and loving. I spent my week teaching English to some of the children in primary school and visiting the community. Many of the little kids would bring a little gift for me, like peanuts or a chocolate bar. Despite it being very cheap to me, I know it was probably expensive for them. I was (and still am) very grateful. I was also gifted a rug by the monks in the village. They apparently really liked me. I got to see them 3 times and spent time with the community listening to them chant with the monk. I visited the preschool and dhamma school (like a Buddhist Sunday school). I enjoyed washing myself with a bucket of water and a wash basin and eating with my hands, no matter how many times I was offered cutlery. On my last day we went out for dinner and ice cream. We were going to see the Pinnewala Elephant Orphanage but it was closed. Instead we did some shopping and took photographs together. On the morning I left I was given many little departure gifts, including a handmade flower crown and necklace! We all exchanged contact information and cried a lot. It was an amazing opportunity and I’m glad I went.

There were many things I learned in the village:
1-     Privacy and alone time aren’t really things people respect. People were reading my Skype conversations over my shoulder… outloud! They were also coming into my room without asking or knocking… one time I was changing for bed! Luckily the light was off.
2-     People really encourage you to embrace the things they love while also ensuring your comfort. My family there offered to make me many things to eat, as long as I liked them!
3-     Using a squat toilet is comfortable and is actually better for your system! I also didn’t mind washing with a bucket and a basin… good for spot washing!
4-     It felt like people were digging for compliments sometimes. If I didn’t finish something they would ask if it was ok. Sri Lankan people eat a lot of food, and I tried to explain that I just don’t eat as much.
5-     Children are very mystified by white people!

Once I was home, I spent my time relaxing a bit and planning my weekend in Kandy for the Perahera. Maia, Liam and I left on Friday (16th) via train. Once we got there, we dropped our bags off at the Sarvodaya District Center and had a nap. A couple hours later we left for the Botanical Gardens, which were very nice. There were hundreds or maybe thousands of different types of trees and flowers. We saw some flying foxes (big bats) and a kingfisher (bird). Around the 2.5 hour mark, I began to feel really exhausted and a bit sick. We left for headquarters anyways to get ready for the festival. I decided that I was feeling too rotten to go. I spent my evening in and out of the bathroom with diarrhoea and vomiting. Somehow I slept through the night (combination of Immodium and Gravol perhaps?). The next morning I felt a bit better, but didn’t eat much. We went out shopping and within an hour I started feeling very weak and faint. I just started crying and said I had to go home. Once we returned to the District Centre we all re-evaluated the situation. We determined I should go to the hospital and see a doctor. Luckily it was right across the street. The doctor took my blood pressure, which ended up being on the ‘low side of normal’ and said I was very dehydrated and needed an IV. A part of me knew this is what I needed based on a similar experience I had a few summers prior when I was hospitalized for heat stroke.

I went into the shadiest of hospital rooms and waited for the nurses. They decided to put the needle into the back of my hand. I suggested inside my arm (by my elbow) because I’ve had success with that and frankly, it was less gross. They said ‘No, no good’ and put the needle in my hand. It hurt so bad I must have flinched because the needle got messed up and they had to do it again. The second one was on my wrist. The nurses took this one out too because my vein had collapsed. That’s how dehydrated I was. For the third needle, they did the back of my other hand. Unfortunately they punctured the vein and the IV fluid went under my skin instead of in my vein. They found this out because my hand began to get swollen and no blood could be drawn from the needle. Seeing that I was in a lot of pain and discomfort they put a local anaesthetic on and told me they’d do another needle in 30 minutes. About 5-7 minutes later, a fourth needle was put into a vein close to my ring finger. They wondered why I was crying and scared. I felt everything. I’m not sure why but it didn’t take. All this time I was a hysterical mess. I hate needles of any kind and I was really uncomfortable. I was also scared out of my mind and having the doctors converse in their language and just poking holes in me was very freaky. They were about to put a fifth needle in when I yelled ‘no no no!’ and talked about my options. Oral re-hydration was a route I was willing to take but it was very complex and honestly I didn’t want to be responsible for all of that while I was already super messed up. I asked them to please try my inner arm. If it didn’t work, I’d try the oral re-hydration plan. They put a local anaesthetic cream on for 30 minutes and gave me the needle. It took. A part of me was like ‘Told you so!” but another part of me was just glad it was over. I laying in the bed for about 1.5 hours as the IV slowly dripped into my arm. My hands were bruised from the needles and people squeezing them. I could barely use them. I hummed and sang softly to the beat of the IV drip and waited for the time to pass. Finally I was cleared.

I got back to the District Center and relaxed a bit because Maia and Liam were out. They were with me at the doctor and were a big help, but they needed to do their own thing. I started feeling crummy and like vomiting again. I went to bed early. The next day I bussed home to Moratuwa. I did not get to see any of the Esala Perahera Festival.

On the way home I stopped for some retail therapy and some ice cream. I bought some more souvenirs and a dress for myself. I got back to headquarters feeling crummy again. I laid down and fell asleep for about 1.5 hours. Afterwards I just cruised on the computer for a bit.

Today I have decided not to push myself. Every time I have, it has prevented me from healing. I got diarrhea again today (too much information?) so I went to the doctor. I didn’t want to mess around. I’m so sick of being sick and I didn’t want to get super dehydrated again… I’ve got no veins left for an IV! I was also very hot (sweating despite the fan on) but my skin felt cool. I was extremely nauseous again and laid down. Mangala, one of the staff here, took me to the doctors where I got some pills to help with the stomach pain, vomiting sensation and diarrhea. I really hope they work.

What next? Well I guess I will just relax until I can actually work and do things. I leave in 8 days for home and do not want to be sick on the plane and for my arrival. I won’t be going to Jaffna or anywhere else in the north. I will only focus on getting better.

Hoping my next post ends on a very happy note.

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

One Month To Go

Here I am. July 31. Feeling down.

I think I've just been realizing that there are lots of things I still want to do here, but I only have a short while to do it! Luckily I have been able to talk to Bandula about these things and he is helping me to arrange and accomplish them. So far.

1. On August 6 I will be joining the Child Development Unit in Galle for project evaluation and discussing with another village what may happen if they are selected to join in a Shramadana Project. I have already made the spreadsheets to compile the data from the surveys they are conducting. Despite them being 'basic' I am satisfied. I did it all off the top of my head with no programming.

2. August 7 I will leave for a 5-day home stay in a village called Damunupola, which is about 12km from Kegalle. Apparently I can take a train to Rambukkana, where I will be picked up by the district coordinator. Later I will be taken to Kegalle on the 12th to take a bus back to Colombo. I am going there with an open mind and open slate. They suggested I teach English, but I am not sure how to do that when I have no knowledge of Sinhalese to translate. "Hello, how are you?" is the same as ???? in Sinhalese. I thought it would be nice to work at a home garden and just learn about the functions of village life. I'm here to learn, after all!

3. A few days after I get back, I will be going to Matara for a field visit with the Child Development Unit. Same process as #1. This is on August 15.

4. Around the 17-20 I want to plan a trip to Kandy for 1 night to see the Esala Perahera Festival; one of the best in Asia! I am able to stay at the Kandy District Centre and can maybe arrange for a bus or train there. But apparently it is very crazy and crowded and that tickets and hotel rooms are booked months in advance!

5. Remaining sights to see: Sigiriya/Dambulla/Polonaruwa as well as Jaffna and the North. However, Bandula doesn't seem to like the idea of me going alone to the North. I would just want the company but am not really afraid to go alone. I know security is still high there, but maybe that's a protective thing, not because there is danger? I got the same vibe in Israel. It's not like I haven't been exposed, but I would need to be properly prepared with documents of my accommodations. I can take a night bus there or a plane, but the night bus sounds cheaper. I hope to stay 2-3 days. Sigiriya is a 'must-see' and is accessible by bus. Apparently it is expensive at $40 a person, but I will look into that! The trip to Sigiriya/Dambulla/Polonaruwa would be 2-3 days. I'm worried about cutting into my 'work hours' but I think these sights are very important to see for the recent (and not so recent) history of Sri Lanka.

I've finally got my invoice for June and July housing and food plus my one-time admin fee. It's a lot of money all at once, but it's still much less than I expected. I came in to this experience anticipating about $20/day but it has turned out to be about half of that! Sweet!

The girls in the trades school are leaving on August 8 and that makes me very sad! I am going to go out and buy a little cake and see if I can find some cheap nail polish. We painted our nails together one day (I think I mentioned it) but they only have two colors. These girls have no money and I'd love to throw them a mini-graduation party as they complete their program. Everything here is cheap so I'm not worried about cost. Plus, they've brought me so much joy and friendship. They asked for my address and gave me their addresses and I hope to mail them some goodies in the future. They are also sewing me a dress and my mom a skirt. I would love to pay them back in some way.

I am really missing home and feeling in a slump lately. It's almost the same feeling as when I first arrived... a bit empty, slow-moving, and lacking energy. It's also hard because I've felt kind of ignored by Bandula in regards to my requests and just in life. Everyone who is new gets noticed and more privileges and opportunities. Despite asking many times, I am often ignored or put on the back burner. Apparently being sensitive and having feelings has kept me from 'getting out there'. Sorry I cried in the open and sought help rather than curl up and die in my room. It's left me bitter and a bit resentful towards some people but at least I'm loaded with opportunities for August (making the time fly faster?) and have had a good time overall.

There are new girls at the orphanage who are annoying me so bad. When asked if they should undress the kids prior to their bath, I suggested they leave the bottoms on until it is their turn because many children will pee and sometimes poop on the floor. So obviously the girls take off the bottoms and the tops and I was left cleaning two pee puddles after one girl said "Oh, she peed." WHAT DID I TELL YOU? Also they have been telling me things about the kids as if I was new there, and half of what they're saying isn't true. "So and so is the youngest" --no they're not. "This baby is breathing fast, her nose is clogged" --babies breathe faster (small lungs maybe?) and her nose was running because she was crying, and I cleaned it. "Her head is so big" --yes, it is. She was also very premature, and that's apparently a 'thing' with premature babies. Then they'll repeat those things... "Oh she's so small but her head is big" --Oh my gosh, we've been through this. I've been at the orphanage longer than you, I'm trying to help you and make things easier for you! Please listen to me!

One of the children had blood in her mouth today and I was trying to figure it out. Sometimes she is treated roughly by staff because she doesn't do well at feeding. I personally think it's the approach of hand-feeding the staff take, but when I suggest spoon feeding or smaller portions, I get told "She doesn't like food." So that's already bugging me. And they've got her pinned between a sofa and a high chair so she can stand while she is sobbing and coughing. It was wrong! She can't balance all that well and she ended up on the ground (not sure how). When I changed her I noticed blood on her hand and cheek. I opened her mouth and saw the blood from around her gums on top/where that piece of skin connects to your upper lip. I told the nurse so maybe she could make sure that's all it was and she said "It doesn't matter. Cream is poison. It is her teeth." Yeah, ok... I wasn't suggesting putting cream on, but what if she fell and really did get a good cut in her mouth that maybe needed stitches? Her teeth are already almost all the way in so I don't thing it was teething. But I was very disturbed by the lack of empathy anyone had for her and the unwillingness by all the staff to exhaust different feeding options. Maybe that's why today I have felt 'down'. This incident really bothered me and I did not return to work for the afternoon.

I also did not return because I had a terrible headache. I think I'm very dehydrated and today was 29.. feels like 42 with 70% humidity. I was very hot on the inside but cool on the outside because my fan was on. I laid down for about an hour after a few hours of skyping with Max. I really needed it, although I feel about the same. Trying to be sure to drink lots of water, although I'm not sure how much to drink in a day.

Jayaca said she would teach me how to make pancakes, or 'fancakes' as they are pronounced here! they're basically like crepes and so delicious. There are chocolate pancakes and coconut pancakes... Mmm! I'm excited to learn. I asked her to tell me how to make daal like they do here because it is very delicious (and has been my staple for 8 weeks... I don't know how to live without it!).

Fast points... sorry if these are repeats:

-I saw the Trevon Martin case on TV

-People do not always turn off their vehicles while fueling up. It freaks me out big time!

-Uniforms are required for school and different colors represent different age groups. All white is older students and blue and white are for younger students.

-There are short eat tuk tuks and bakery tuk tuks that drive around blasting "Fur Elise" as if it's the ice cream truck. They don't have ice cream, but they do have jam buns for about 25Rs (30 cents!)

-I saw a man walking his dog. This is significant because there are many strays, and while some have string, ribbon, or collars around their necks, this doesn't mean they are walked, let in the house, etc. I have not seen anyone even touch a dog here because many are sick. It gave me hope to see at least one person love and care like that.

-"Prisoners are Human Beings" sign outside of two Colombo Jails. Kind of a stating the obvious thing, but still a friendly reminder that those who are incarcerated still have people who love them, whom they love and do have feelings, despite what we may try to think.

-The four major rivers in Sri Lanka all originate from Adam's Peak!

-I saw a sign at a restaurant that said "Today's Special: Rice and Curry!". That's funny, because that's been the special for me for 2 months!

That's all I got for right now. Thanks for reading about my venting! ;)

Saturday, July 27, 2013

The Longest Post Ever!


These past few weeks have been nuts… and now I’m realising that it actually has been two weeks since I wrote last. Sorry for dropping the ball!

After the wedding I got quite sick. The next day I was working as per usual at the orphanage and all of a sudden I just felt terrible. Despite it being evening and having the fans on, I was quite hot and felt very nauseous. The nurse there, Indika, said she was also sick earlier and that I should go home and rest. One of the ladies in charge, Damayanthi, walked me back to the hostel and made it known to the matrons that I was under the weather. I decided to lay down and see what happened. Yamuna came to check on me and said I had a fever after touching my forehead and neck. She said if in one hour I still felt worse then we could go to the doctor. After an hour I was very hot, waiting to vomit, and had a very sore stomach and headache. I was also feeling very weak and ready to pass out. We quickly got a tuk tuk to the same clinic I went to for my ant bites. It is very close to the hostel. The doctor remembered me and said it was good that my ant bites were healed but I was “sensitive, nay?”. He gave me some pills for fever, antibiotics, heartburn (caused by the antibiotics) and ordered a blood test. Maia was with me and Yamuna and made sure we knew what all of the pills were for. About 3 other people/groups let me go in front of them (I must have looked that bad) and I thanked them and we drove to the pharmacy. I got more pills and returned home. I began to get sick again and rushed to the washroom. I had a restless sleep and at 7am got up to go get my blood test. The results were ready about 5 hours later and they all came back negative. Whenever you have a fever here you cannot take it likely. There are many diseases like malaria and dengue fever and you have to make sure you don’t have either of them… they can do serious damage. I was so thankful to have Maia there and the support from everyone at the hostel. I spent the next day in bed.

Sunday, Maia, Chelsea and I went to the Mt. Lavinia Hotel to use the beach. Turned out that there was an insane brunch buffet and the cost included the use of the pool and beach. The buffet included caviar, smoked salmon, sushi, salads, curries, western food, waffles, mousse, cake, and it was all presented beautifully. The Mt. Lavinia Hotel is after all one of the nicest in Sri Lanka I believe. I still had a very upset stomach and did not eat. I did order iced tea, but it was like the sweet tea prepared in the USA. So when the waiter noticed I didn’t like it he offered me something else. I got lime juice (straight up) and it came with a sweet syrup to add to taste. I spent the afternoon reading by the pool while Maia and Chelsea swam. I then had a sandwich (after reminding the server I ordered 45 minutes previous) and we headed back home to headquarters. I spent my day in the shade but I was still exhausted by the evening.

The next day I got up very early to leave on a trip with Shanthi Sena, the Peace Brigade. We were going on a couple day trip to Anuradhapura to do some leadership training for peace skill building and peace groups in the surrounding villages. Unfortunately no one translated from Sinhala or Tamil for me so I was quite bored and I was still feeling pretty sick. The car ride was about 6 hours in an air-conditioned van (luxury!) so leaving for a grungy hostel room with an oscillating fan was not great. The room, although ‘cleaned’, was very dusty and I found what looked like a mouse poop (just one poop haha) on the next bed. There were also cobwebs everywhere, geckos, and several big cockroaches. The electrical outlet was very finicky and I had to tilt the plug and cord to the fan a certain way and rest a pillow on it to keep it in place. Any other position would cut the power. It was sketchy! I’m glad the pillow didn’t catch fire and that the fan stayed on. I was roasting. I went to the doctor later in the day to get more pills because I was still feeling bad and almost out of the other pills I had. That night I went to bed early and was woken up by some guys showering and hanging out outside of my room. They then blasted some Sri Lankan music and were making tons of noise. I figured it was probably 10:00pm and I was just a party pooper, but my clock read 5:30am! It lasted about 5-10 minutes until someone told them to stop. That was just ridiculous. It left me a little grumpy but more dumbfounded by the whole thing. I spent the next day touring the old city of Anuradhapura.

Anuradhapura was the capital city back in like, the 8th century and has been a very important city for many years, but fell apart and has since been restored… and is still being restored! I began my day at the Sri Maha Bodhi Tree. This tree is super important to Sri Lankan Buddhists… and Buddhists in general because it is a cutting from the tree in India under which Buddha found Enlightenment at some time around 236BC. It is interesting because guards have kept uninterrupted watch over the tree ever since, making it the oldest historically authenticated tree in the world! Next I walked to the Ruvanwelisiya Dagoba. A dagoba is a dome-shaped shrine that contains relics of the Buddha or a Buddhist saint. The whole temple was surrounded by a wall with an elephant wall and had smaller stupas (domes) at the cardinal points. From there I went to Thuparama, the oldest dagoba that is said to house the right collar-bone of the Buddha. I caught a tuk tuk to the next site, Jetavanarama Dagoba, which is said to be the highest brick dagoba of its kind in the world. My last stop for the day was Issurumumiyagala Monastery (say that 5x fast!). It was a very peaceful place with a reflection pool and a temple built into the massive rock that sits there. I got to climb up to the top of the rock and say the countryside and Jetavanarama Dagoba in the distance. The also have a small museum there with some sculptures, notably ‘the lovers’. It is believed to represent Dutthagemunu’s son Saliya and his girlfriend Asokamala, for whom he forsook the throne. (I’m copying all of this from my Footprint Sri Lanka book!) Anuradhapura is a UNESCO World Heritage Site and part of the “Cultural Triangle” of Sri Lanka.

Later in the same day we took a van back to headquarters, where I arrived around 9:00-9:30 at night. I was ready to come back because I did not want to spend more time reading and sleeping in my hot room and feeling sick away from the comforts of home/the hostel. It was a shorter drive home (more like 5 hours) because we made less stops and took a more direct route. I was totally ok with that. The rest of the week I focussed on feeling better and did some more reading for my practicum.

On Friday, Chelsea, Maia and I went out for dinner at K-Zone, the local mall. I got an amazing smoothie and some thai food, but I couldn’t eat it. It was pretty much rice and green onion. It was hard to eat so much onion! My stomach was doing flip-flops. We got some popcorn and came back to watch Anchorman, which Maia had never seen before. I have seen it a couple times before, but it never gets old! Afterwards we made a sign for my friend Karen who was coming to visit from Nepal. It was a beautiful sign and we had a blast colouring all sorts of things that represent Sri Lanka. Some images included a beautiful elephant (Maia), Buddha, the tooth relic, tea, rice, palm trees, and a stupa. I left around 11 for the airport and got there an hour early for Karen’s 1am arrival. I paid the 300Rs to enter the arrival area with my sign. I had a jam bun and another gravol for my wonky stomach. I was waiting among other people with signs for over half an hour before Karen came through the gate at around 1:45am. Everyone, including my new guest, loved the sign and I caught a lot of people staring at it. No one else had a sign like it, only names written in black sharpie on white paper. So lame! I called the driver and he picked us up. We talked a lot on the ride home, but by 3:30 when we got settled in the room, we were dead tired.

Our day started at about 7:30 when we got ready for breakfast. I gave Karen a tour of headquarters and where I work in Suwasetha. She got to meet the girls in the sewing, needlepoint and typing units. At that time, Jayaca invited us to the homecoming ceremony of one of the girls who also worked in the sewing unit. After the wedding and honeymoon, the homecoming ceremony occurs. Basically it is when the bride and groom return to the groom’s house and have another party with food, tea, and gifts. There is also a time when the family gets to say their send off message and then they leave. From this time on, the bride may see her parents a few times a year but her obligation is to run the new house. What a hard transition! Both the bride and groom seemed emotional to say goodbye to their family… it felt like it was the last time they’d see each other! She came over and gave me a hug and I signed that I was very happy for her and Jayaca signed to her for a minute or two before we all left. We were only there for 1.5-2 hours. It was quite hot and it was all outside. I think we were ready to go home. On the way, Jayaca and the driver dropped Karen and I off at the store I got my sarees at, Mafaza. Karen picked out a beauty and from there we headed to K-Zone via bus. We got some groceries for the adventure ahead of us and also got smoothies and did some browsing. K-Zone is very small with about 10-12 stores and 4 food stalls. It did not take long at all. From there we came back to headquarters and lounged around before and after dinner. We also spent time planning our trip with Bandula and I stayed up a little too late working on the logistics of the routes ahead.

The next day we got up and finished packing and after a breakfast of string hoppers with coconut sambal we headed off to catch a bus to Colombo Fort Railway Station. It was warm already, despite a brief downpour. The ride took about 45 minutes or more and was kind of nauseating. I did not feel good and until I got to sit and look out the open window, I thought I would throw up. Once we got to the railway station we got some short eats (snacks) and bought our tickets to Kandy. We waited in the “Ladies Waiting Room” for our train and began our journey.

Our first stop along the way was in Rambukkana. It is a small town known for the Pinnewala Elephant Orphanage, but the tuk tuk driver we hired to take us there suggested we go to the Millennium Elephant Foundation for the same price but a better experience. On a whim we went for it! For 2000Rs we had the opportunity to bathe one of the elephants that was lying in the river. I think it really enjoyed it and also sprayed water at Karen! We used the rough coconut shells to scrub the sand and dirt off of the skin and rinse off with water. It was so fun! Then we got to ride one of the elephants named Pooja, the first elephant born into captivity by another domesticated elephant. She is 25 years old! Her mother is Lakshmi, a very famous elephant who has been in over 25 international films including Tarzan the Ape Man! It felt like I was among celebrities! Anyways, we rode her for about 10 minutes and then got to feed her some fruit for 200Rs extra. She was very friendly and it was apparent that she loves to eat! We also got a tour of the museum there that houses skeletons and teeth of elephants and gave a great explanation of Asian and African elephants. There are very clear differences such as ear and trunk size, body weight, and temperament. Only 5% of male Asian elephants can grow tusks! There was also a gift shop and a place we left our bags for the tour. Afterwards we got a tuk tuk ride back to Rambukkana Railway Station to grab a quick snack and then we continued to Kandy using our same train ticket.

The train to Kandy was not full (there were no seats available but there was tons of standing room). Karen and I talked to some Slovenian ladies who were touring the country as well. The train ride took way longer than expected due to many random stops along the way and just having a slow train in the hills. We eventually got there and began walking from the railway station to the center of town. We met some other Canadian girls from Calgary who are doing an 8 month tour of Asia. They guided us to the lake area, which is very close to the Temple of the Tooth. Karen and I decided to find a hotel to drop off our heavy bags. After seeing a few places we stumbled upon Olde Empire Hotel, which was also in my book. It was cheap at 1500Rs but had a shared bath. This was not a big deal for us anyways, and the room was gorgeous with lots of character. It was also right beside the Temple of the Tooth. We headed over and went through security. There was a female only line, as is the custom in Asia. There was a long walkway with banners along the way to the ticket booth where we paid for entry. It was packed with people, as we went at ‘the best time’… 6:30-7:30pm. It was quickly apparent why it was such a good time to go… there were drummers and horn players and the casket holding the relic was on display. We got to walk by the shimmering gold casket and saw many people offering money, flowers, and also pay their respects. The casket is said to house one of Buddha’s teeth. It is one of the most important temples/dagobas in Sri Lanka, if not the world. It has a long history and is home to various festivals throughout the year… One being the Esala Perahera, which I hope to attend later in August. After touring the building and seeing old books and statues we headed over to Pizza Hut and ate garlic shrimp pizza and a meat lovers pizza before going to bed early in our historic hotel room.

The next morning we walked up to Udawattekele Sanctuary for a morning hike. It took about 3.5 hours because we took an unexpected detour and stopped to see a couple deer, turtles on a log, and look at some interesting plants. I was happy to only spend 650Rs for entrance because we did not see much in terms of wildlife, except as we were leaving there was a huge group of monkeys that ran across the street with their babies clinging to their undersides. There must have been 40 or more monkeys! They were very cute. Along the way to the sanctuary Karen and I had an interesting encounter with a young man who asked, “Can I say something to you?” I said sure, and he proceeded to offer us a full body massage for 1500Rs. We told him that we were leaving in a few hours (not a lie) but we would think about it. Deep inside we were screaming “NO WAY!” and when he asked if he could give us his mobile number Karen piped in and said she did not have a phone. I followed suit and apologized. He then continued walking. We laughed about it for a bit. Why would I accept a full body massage from a stranger I met on a winding treed road? Maybe that’s the norm here, but we were a little blown away. We would have never accepted, but I think we politely turned him down in a roundabout way.

From there we did a bit of browsing on our way back to the hotel, about a 20-minute walk away. I got some gifts and a new shirt. We stopped at KFC for lunch. I think we both desperately needed to jump at the chance to have something other than rice and lentils. I’ve had the same thing 2x a day for 8 weeks. I needed a chicken burger, fries, and Pepsi! Then we collected our bags from the Olde Empire Hotel, bussed to the Goods Shed bus stand and found an air-conditioned direct bus to Nuwara Eliya! I felt like we struck gold. It was a nice ride with few stops and I even had a seat. However, the road was very windy. Having the cool air and a view out the window helped me to not feel motion sick, as I usually do. Nuwara Eliya is very high up in the mountains and it took a couple of hours to get there.

Once we arrived in Nuwara Eliya I had to take a minute to sit and relax. My head was spinning a bit. Right after we got a tuk tuk to Labookellie Tea Factory, which we passed on our way into Nuwara Eliya. I was told it would be cold in the hill country. Being a Canadian, and more specifically a Winnipegger, I laughed at the thought of cold. But soon after I was not laughing. It was misting all the time and there was a cold breeze. I think the real feel ended up being around 10-15C, but I swear a cold breeze with the mist just made it feel worse. Sometimes Nuwara Eliya gets frost! I was waiting for that to come! Anyways, we went to the tea factory and learned all about how tea is produced. Basically you pick a piece from the plant with young, green leaves, a bud, and 2 or more leaves. The tea is then dried and chopped up to fine pieces. Then it is ground to become even finer! The leaves are left out to ferment for 3 hours and are heated to remove the last bit of moisture. The stems are shaken off and the rest is taken to be graded. The small and dark leaves make stronger tea than the bigger and lighter pieces. It takes about 5kg of leaves to create 1kg of the finished product. I believe the tea factory produces over 3000kgs a day and houses 1000 workers over 1200 acres. Tea plants can live for 60 years until they are replaced. Every year the plants are cut to be no more than about 2-3ft off the ground, but can grow up to 10ft! In addition, one of the most expensive teas, white tea, is made using only the bud. Green tea does not get chopped up or fermented. There’s some quick facts for you! After the tour we got a free pot of tea and bought a piece of cake. Then we browsed the (overpriced) gift shop and left back for Nuwara Eliya where we began the long hunt for a guesthouse. We stumbled upon a market where I bought a sweater and we jammed to some dance music/mix of top songs from my high school years. We also sampled and bought some fruit, including passion fruit and a tree tomato that tastes like a blueberry! Eventually this man came up to us and asked if we needed a place to stay. He showed us a nice guest house and when we asked for advice to go to Horton Plains the next day, gave us his business card, as he works with tourism in the area. He arranged an early pick up for us (at a price) and cost us a cozy hotel room for 2000Rs. Once at the guesthouse we had dinner and got ready for bed. Our next day was supposed to begin at 5:00am!

The next morning was a little rough as it was totally freezing! I slept in my clothes and my sweater. We got our breakfast to go and by 5:30 were packed in the van and leaving to Horton Plains. The drive took about an hour and we got there just after the park opened. The cost to enter the park was ridiculous. There were numerous charges for the car park and taxes and all these other things. With the van and the entry it cost over 10,000Rs, or $80 total. The morning was very cold with mist and drizzle accompanied by a low fog/cloud. On our way into the park we saw some deer but nothing else. We began our cold walk to Mini World’s End and the next point was Greater World’s End. At this point the mountains just stop. It is like a lush cliff face that drops over 850 meters! It was really freaky, especially since there was no railing! The clouds were low so we didn’t have a super view looking straight out but looking down you could see the houses far below. It was freaky! We continued on the 9km trek to see Baker’s Falls. We took a path down to the base of the falls. It was about a 20-minute descent sliding down vertical rocks and roots. I’m not sure how I made it down, but I definitely was muddy by the end of it! The view of the falls was just awesome but it was less awesome to come to the realisation that we had to go back up the steep path. Going up proved to be much easier, and since I was already dirty, I wasn’t afraid to get even dirtier. We returned to the van after a total of 3.5 hours in the drizzling rain and wind. While the walk was nice, it was cold at times, and I got an annoying earache, perhaps from the cold, wet, wind. It has since gone away. The driver dropped us off at a tiny train station in Pattipola…

We made it to the train station with about 15 minutes to spare before our departure time. Unfortunately, but not surprisingly, our train was late… By about an hour! Karen and I were freezing in a lounge area right beside two bathroom stalls. It was nice to be somewhat out of the cold wind, but it felt like an extra long wait. Finally the train came and we rode it to Haputale, a town that was at a major junction. From there we got to have some lunch of rice and curry (surprise surprise) and after a lot of searching in the bus station found a bus that would take us to Pelmadulla, the next junction along our journey. Along the way the whole bus got off and had tea, a bathroom break, and snacks. It was so funny to have a tea break on the bus. It is really clear how important teatime is in this culture! Our next stop after changing in Pelmadulla would be Deniyaya, the city closest to the Sinharaja Rainforest. Unfortunately no busses would take us there at that time so we took a bus to Rakwana which was along the way at least. It began to rain again and we found a rest house that was also listed in my travel book. It took a while for someone to notice that we were actually there but soon after we got a room for 2000Rs and had dinner. The room and food were nice but the bill was expensive, totalling 3080Rs. We left in the morning for the bus station, but it turned out the bus would have gone right past the guesthouse. Oh well. We got a nice walk in and bought some fruit along the way! From Rakwana we caught a bus to Deniyaya.

In Deniyaya we found a tuk tuk driver to take us to the Mederipitiya Entrance of the Sinharaja Rainforest for 800Rs. The road was really bad near the end so we had to get up and walk to the entrance from maybe .5km away. Once there it began pouring. It is the rainforest; I’m not really sure what I was expecting. A guide was mandatory since there have been deaths in the past in the forest because of many poisonous creatures and angry elephants. Over all it was a little more than 1000Rs each, which I didn’t think was outrageous, given the fact we paid so much at Horton Plains. There were many routes to choose from, but we chose the 8.5km trek of 3 hours. Along the way we saw many big, colourful spiders, geckos, snails, giant millipedes, and a green pit viper. A few days prior an elephant went on a rampage and we saw the damaged tree it knocked down as well as elephant dung. I was surprised to see it looked like big balls of like… string or fibres or grass of sorts. It was weird! We also saw a waterfall. There were many leeches in the rainforest and I had about 6 during our entire journey. The guide rubbed salt on our shoes and legs and picked the leeches off for us. I still have a mark from one sucker, but it’s not bad. The leeches here are like black/grey inchworms, not the nasty ones we have in Canada. It made them a lot less gross. Afterwards we walked an additional 1km to catch another tuk tuk. Our guide took us to his house on the way, where we sat and waited for the tuk tuk he called for us. For another 800Rs we got back to the Deniyaya bus station where we caught the next bus heading south!

We got on a bus headed to Akuressa. This bus ride was not super long once we hit Pitabeddera. It was very hilly and the road was windy so it took longer to get places. When we hit Pitabeddera I had a very urgent bathroom situation and they stopped the bus for me to run to a public toilet. And run I did. People on the street and the bus were apparently laughing as I was running and darting through traffic (though sparse) to go to the bathroom. I was running not only because it was an emergency, but also because I didn’t want to keep a bus full of people waiting! I was so grateful that they pulled over… I was reaching crisis mode. They have waited for men who just ‘go’ by the bus but this seemed different. We carried on and despite having a ‘scare’ of having to go again, I made it to Akuressa. There I ran to the next public toilet while Karen scouted out the next bus. Luckily there was one headed to Matara that we caught just in time. It was one of the shortest rides so far (yay!) but once we got there it was night.

Once in the busy beachside city we realised we quickly needed to find a rest house and set our things down. It was only 1500Rs and very nice. We even had the company of a cockroach in the bathroom. It doesn’t even bother me anymore. Well, I’m bothered by the fact that they can FLY but I know they won’t hurt me. Karen and I then wandered off in search of food and stumbled upon a Perera and Sons (bakery and restaurant) where we shared a giant plate of mixed fried rice. There was seafood and vegetables as well as egg in it. It was great. We were still wet from the rainforest where we were drenched as well as from all the rain along the way. Getting back to the hotel and showering was amazing. Unfortunately my blue Nepal pants dyed my legs blue because the rain made the colors bleed! It took a couple days to come off but it’s fine. Not the first time it’s happened! I went to bed and we woke up at our leisure… For me that was about 8:30am! Woohoo!

We left the hotel and caught a bus to Mirissa Beach, the beautiful secret getaway I visited earlier in my stay. Karen and I had short eats along the way so we had a late lunch after wading around in the water. Before that, we had some amazing pineapple juice. Fresh juice. Amazing. So we had a seafood platter for lunch with lobster, fish, prawns, and calamari. It was delicious, but very filling. That’s all I could eat! After lunch we decided to get a cabana to store our things in. The same guys I met at the restaurant last trip had their beachfront cabana available. The waves literally came up just below our balcony! It was a little house on stilts! We got this beautiful little space for 2000Rs. I paid $8 for one night in a beachfront cabana. I went to sleep with the sound of the ocean waves! So nice! Before sleeping, however, we played in the very, very strong waves. There were red flags out and lifeguards on duty. I’m glad for that! Despite putting lots of sunscreen on I burned my shoulders, chest, and face again. This equatorial sun is unbelievable! We relaxed on the balcony and Karen and I had some great conversations about all sorts of things! We showered and went to walk the town, which actually takes like 10 minutes, and then returned to the cabana to write some postcards that we purchased on our walk. A few hours later we decided to stroll along the beach and check out some menus along the beachfront restaurants. It was amazing to see tables and chairs in the sand and tables set up with the catch of the day. You could choose your own fish, crab, or calamari for dinner. There were a few different types but I was not feeling like more fish. Karen and I had a cocktail and dinner and then returned home to sleep. Did I mention I went to sleep with the sound of the ocean waves? ;)

Again, we woke up at our leisure. We paid for our room and went to buy a tea bun for breakfast. Our bus came soon after and took us to Ambalangoda. I had a bad experience on the bus with a creepy man but it was still a nice ride once he got off in Galle. Once in Ambalangoda we caught a tuk tuk to take us to the turtle sanctuary. Despite having a translator, the tuk tuk driver took us to a hotel. He seemed confused when we said it was not the place, and tried to charge us more! Finally we got there with some help from the people at the hotel. It was a different sanctuary than the one I visited last time. It was smaller but free. I made a donation anyways. We got to see and hold lots of turtles. They even let us release some baby turtles into the ocean! I became very emotional because I was thinking about the bad tuk tuk driver and experience on the bus, but also because I was thinking I was leading the babies to their deaths. They are adorable and I felt like I was letting them down. They already have a better shot at being rescued because they were protected for a couple of days already. It was still a phenomenal experience! One of the men there showed us to the bus stand. On the way I stubbed my toe really bad. I looked down right away and I was gushing blood. I lost it. My whole day had been very emotional and this was the last straw! The man ran to get bandaids and he cleaned up my toe and put them on. He was so nice and said everyone here is like family and if we are in the area and need food or a hotel he could help us. He also waited for us to get on the right bus. The bus dropped us off at K-Zone and we stopped to get another smoothy and did a bit of shopping. We stocked up on some tea (gifts) and got a tuk tuk back to headquarters with our heavy bags. The rest of the day we just relaxed. It was great to upload pictures, send some emails and finally talk to Max.

The next day we left the hostel after breakfast for Colombo Fort Railway Station again. There we were directed to take a bus to our requested destination: Negombo. Along our search for the proper bus stand, a man came up to us and offered us a free ride in his vehicle since he was ‘going to Negombo’. We politely declined but he was very persistent. He asked our names and ages, and also if we had Facebook or mobile numbers. I said I didn’t have either Facebook or a phone. Karen and I were pretty annoyed. People do take interest in us and talk to us but not like this. He walked with us and wanted us in his car. We saw a post office and told him we had to mail something and we said goodbye. He stopped us and showed me his phone. On it he had typed “I wud like f-cking with u”. I loudly said “No! I’m married! She (pointing to Karen) is married!” He replied with “No problem, 10,000Rs.” Disgusted, I said “No!” again and walked away. Karen followed and I told her what was on the phone. He disappeared. We mailed our postcards and went to the bus station. At this time it started pouring. We got very wet even though we used our umbrellas. It is easy to tell when it will rain here because it gets very dark, very windy, very fast. The rain falls very heavily too! But we got on our bus to Negombo and after we got there we had some lunch. We bought a lunch packet for less than a dollar that had enough food for 3 people. We also got drinks and a dessert at a restaurant so we could sit and eat lunch. Another woman joined us and we asked her for directions to the fish market. She was going there anyways and she said she could show us. It was just a mini market but it still had crazy fish! Afterwards we went to the beach fish market, which is much bigger and right on the ocean. We saw shark meat, seer fish, cuttlefish, calamari, yellow fin, grouper, red snapper, giant tuna, salmon, crabs and prawns of all sizes. Get this, 1kg of both shrimp and tuna costs $3.12 and 1kg of salmon is $2.34. It is so cheap! I wish I could bring some back home. The fish was not kept on ice, but water was poured over them often. There were lots of flies and blood everywhere. Cleavers were flying and fish parts littered some of the tables. It was a different experience. I was worried about my toe (which had a giant chunk of skin torn off from when I stubbed it) as there were lots of puddles. These puddles probably had pee (cows close by), spit, blood, salt, and other germs in it. I was so ready to be home and clean it! Karen and I bought a pineapple for about 50cents and carried it all the way to Colombo via train, through a shopping mall called Majestic City (dad!) and on the bus home. Majestic City had many of the same stores. At least 10 watch stores, 10 jewellery stores, 10 video game stores… They all had the same things! I have no idea how people make money. It was super confusing and 5 levels. It wasn’t great. I didn’t buy anything and I won’t go back.

That evening I took Karen to the airport and said goodbye. Since then I have slept in and cleaned my room. Today Chelsea also left so I said goodbye to her. We had a little part with cake and we went out for lunch. Chelsea and I went to K-Zone for one last smoothy but I had ice cream since it was so dang hot and I was in long black leggings! That was a mistake. I’ve been off and on writing this post for 6 hours. I think I’m really done with writing now and have a sore hand because it’s resting funny on my laptop. I will update more often than this! That is a lesson I have surely learned! I’m not sure what’s up for this week… maybe I’ll fill you in tomorrow? Or at least when I have a plan! One month left!

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Sri Lankan Wedding

The past few days have been up and down. Let me start from one important story...

On Thursday I had woken up very early because I was excited for the wedding of a coworker here in Sri Lanka. My iPod was at 20% battery power and I was pretty nervous that it would die before the morning, thus not waking me up in time. I woke up slightly before my alarm went off, so I just got up and got ready for my day. Yamuna said she would help me pleat my saree, but I couldn't find her. One of the other matrons suggested to look upstairs. She was not there, but a group of women was. They offered to help me and dressed me appropriately. They all commented on how beautiful my saree was. I returned to my room and did my hair and got some earrings before heading over to the canteen for breakfast. The usual.

I headed straight over to Suwasetha, where the event was being held. Everyone was moving at a speed I'd never seen before... fast! There was a lot to do in order to get ready such as cook food, set up tables and put out decorations. By the time I got there (8:30) it was mostly done. I just sat down and waited for things to begin. It wasn't until I sat down was I told that the bride wasn't actually arriving until closer to 10:00. Dang. So I just sat around and visited with the girls there before the bride arrived.

She came in a white car and was wearing a beautiful white dress. She was covered in gold.. necklaces, headpieces, earrings, bracelets, you name it! Her name is Palika. She was raised in Suwasetha as an orphan. Today was the last day she would be in the center after 30 years! She looked stunning. She had threaded her whole body (like tweezing) and had beautiful hair and makeup. I hardly recognized her. She was smiling, yet you could see she was a little nervous. Everyone was telling her how beautiful she looked (myself included). She was dabbing her eyes and smiling.

Soon after, the groom arrived in a white car with 2 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen. It looked packed in the car! He looked nice in just a regular black suit. They met up outside of the wedding hall and had a group of 4 young girls sing a song for them. Next, they proceeded inside the hall to sign the registry. Based on their astrological signs they find the best time to be married. This was it! They each had a witness to sign the documents. After saying some vows, they exchanged rings and he put a necklace on her. They lit a beautifully decorated oil lamp (standing about 4-5ft tall) and shared a small piece of cake among themselves and their wedding party. Next, they worship their elders... This basically means that they bow down to them to show respect. Kind of like you would with a monk. The ceremony was over.






Afterwards, tea and snacks were shared. There were a variety of oil cakes as well as some rice/coconut patties. This gave everyone a chance to eat, drink and mingle while the newly married couple got to have photos taken around Suwasetha. I followed around outside to take some pictures of my own, and I even got one with Palika and her groom. This took a bit over an hour. Afterwards, they came back inside and we were all welcomed to lunch which included rice and many curries as well as fruit cups and ice cream. I ate with my hands (as is the custom here) and cleaned up. I gave Palika a gift that I had bought. A pair of sparkling earrings for her and an iron for their household. She seemed flattered to receive it. I also spent time with the deaf girls taking pictures and hanging out. But I was hot and tired, so I returned to my room to change and have a nap. The rest of the day was nothing spectacular.





Yesterday I went to the library to look for books on the war to read for school. There was only one about the Tamil Tigers and their 'terrorist activities'. It was a very short book, including extremely graphic photos that made my stomach turn and one liners explaining the incidents that occurred. It was very disturbing and I'm not sure what to make of it yet. I can only assume it is very slanted, as not all Tamil people are bad. There were probably many Sinhalese people who committed the same brutal acts. I wish I could see both sides.

This prompted a discussion with Bandula about opportunities to work in the North... I believe this area was most affected by the war. Bandula said he would not send me with Sarvodaya because no one has good experiences. Security personnel become very suspicious and don't like to have outsiders in, apparently fearing what they may relay to the media or international realm. Bandula did say that I could go as a tourist with little problems, although I would not be able to go to villages or stay in a home stay. Purely holiday. While this wasn't the answer I wanted, I appreciated that Bandula isn't just sending me out there because I want to. He describes the risks to me and I respect that. I don't want to take chances or upset the security forces. At least I can go for a 'holiday', but secretly I will be looking for any signs of the war and the effect it has had on the people. I'm not encouraged to talk to people about it, but maybe if the opportunity arises...?

Yesterday I left Suwasetha early because I wasn't feeling so good. Very suddenly I was feeling exhausted, hot, nauseous and I had a headache. The nurse, Indika, suggested I go and rest. She also mentioned that she had a headache and vomited earlier in the day. Indika said it could be a change in weather. I don't know what that's supposed to mean because it's been the same weather every day, except yesterday there was no rain. Every day is high 30s or around 40. No surprises... Ever. So I went back to the hostel to rest. Indika walked me back and mentioned to the matrons that I was sick. Yamuna checked on me as did Maia and Chelsea. I was terrible. I was super hot, sweaty, tired, my headache was worse and now I was feeling ready to vomit. Yamuna said she'd come back at 7:00 and if I was still bad or worse we would go to the doctor. By 7:00 I knew things were getting worse so we went to the same doctor I went to see about my ant bites. He gave me amoxicillan, pills for heartburn (amox can cause heartburn), pills to help with the fever, and vitamins since I was so weak. He also gave me a referral to have a full blood count done and a dengue fever test done. Maia came with me which was super nice. She was like a mother, making sure everything was in order. I appreciated it. Yamuna was also there. The individuals who were waiting for the doctor let me cut in front of them. I think they saw how bad I was. I thanked them as we were leaving.

Before I went to the doctor, Maia and Chelsea went to the grocery store and picked me up some easy-to-eat snacks, including a baguette, crackers, apples, and ginger cookies. When I got home I ate part of an apple and took copious amounts of pills. Now my bum was very unhappy and my stomach was upset and couldn't decide if it needed to throw up or not. Still I managed ok. I was not feeling well enough to take a shower, despite the girls putting a plastic chair in there for me to sit on. I just was worried I'd pass out. I was so out of it. I went to bed shortly after.

My stomach was doing so many flip flops and felt so gross I could hardly sleep. I had the light on and the fan on full blast. In case I had to make an emergency trip to the bathroom I also left my door unlocked. I slept naked and was still warm. I was in and out of short sleeps until about 3:00 when I got on the computer and tried to tire out my eyes. I also took a gravol, hoping maybe I could be so tired that I'll forget about the pain and discomfort and fall asleep anyways. It worked, but I was exhausted when I was woken up at 6:45am. Time to go to get the blood test. Clinic opens at 7am.

I showered and got ready and just that alone was enough to totally drain me. It was quarter after 7 when we arrived. I was the only one in the clinic and got served right away. I do not like needles and it was so gross but I did it. I was to return at 12:00 noon to get my results. We went home, paid the driver, and I went to bed.

11:45 I was woken up again. Time to head back to the clinic and pick up my results. The same tuk tuk driver came back to get me. I picked up my little sheet with wacky numbers and codes on it from the clinic and went to the doctor I saw to get them interpreted and to also get his recommendation.  He said it was not dengue fever and that my blood count was ok. He advised that I continue with the pills he gave me and I should feel better. I already was.

I have eaten an apple, part of the baguette and some ginger cookies in the last 26 hours. I know it's not a lot. But it's all I can handle. I am also trying to drink a lot of water... I know my body needs fuel. As of right now I am hot and weak... But still I am feeling better. The nausea is gone, which has allowed me to eat. This is good. I hope things improve exponentially from here.

I have an opportunity to travel with Shanti Sena (Peace Brigade) to Anuradhapura for training. They leave early on Monday morning and return around midnight on Wednesday. I really want to go, but I'm just worried about my health. The drive is long and would give me an opportunity to sleep but at the same time traveling is so exhausting... Do I want to risk it if I'm not 100%? Does anyone have any thoughts?

I forgot to mention that when I was in Hikkaduwa I learned more about the tsunami in 2004. Can you believe that the wave reached over 10meters high and went inland about 4kms! That is a ton of destruction. Along the coast, towns are littered with gravestones.

I think that's all for now!


Tuesday, July 09, 2013

Hikkaduwa

So apparently I haven't posted in one week! How crazy is that!? I guess because most days are pretty much the same I don't bother. I'm hoping to change that! Bandula said he'd find more/different work for me, which should lead to some adventures and most posts!

The past week was basically working at the orphanage. Two of the children have moved to the 'big kids' side and now there are 6 children. However today one child was transferred to another home so we are down to 5 children. I guess this is a good thing.

There was another girl from the USA here on a vacation with her family and she spent the mornings volunteering. She is going to be a senior in high school. We talked a bit. It was cool that she is also Sri Lankan (like Erandi) and can communicate with the workers at Suwasetha. However, she was only here for a week and a bit and left today.

The only real 'news' I have is that this weekend Mason/Masano, Maia (a new girl here from NY), Ben and I went to Hikkaduwa Beach, which is along the south west coast, but before Galle. We took the train on Saturday morning for a mere 70Rs and rode for about 1.5-2 hours.

Once we got there we walked from the train station down a long (hot) road looking for accommodations. Since Hikkaduwa is very much a tourist destination, there are lots of hotels and restaurants. Finding them wasn't the problem. Finding one for cheap was. We looked at about 4 hotels before settling on Whispering Palms Tourist Rest. It is a 4-room hotel at a family's home. They were a young family (and mother-in-law?) and were extremely helpful. They gave us a deal of 3000Rs for 2 double rooms. It was a very fair price, mainly because it is 'low season' in Hikkaduwa right now.

It is low season because it is monsoon season on the west coast. Basically that means it rains every day for a bit. We have not had storms and only one incident of very bad weather when I first arrived. Many fisherman lost their lives. In addition, the beach is much smaller and the current is stronger. Without proper guidance from locals, you could be swept in the undertow or get caught in a tough place to swim. I did not experience that problem.

Hikkaduwa is very popular for surfing and also the coral sanctuaries and fancy fish that are found only feet from the shore. We saw one man learning to surf but the waves were not big enough for real surfing.

After checking in and getting settled we went to rent some snorkeling gear and go to the beach. For the whole day I got fins, mask, and snorkel for 500Rs. We walked to the area of beach known to have coral. It was only about 7 minutes away. We were directed by friendly locals and were also told about the glass-bottomed boats you could rent to go out to the reef or just view it without getting wet. Mason swam out to the post in the water that marked the location of the reef. The waves were more rough here and he said that the sand was being kicked up by the current... no view.

Maia and I then snorkeled in a neighboring area to test that section out. There was a lot of coral... huge chunks the size of big rocks. However, they were very close to the surface. With the waves and current I was slowly pulled around the coral while in the 'starfish position' - floating on the water. There was one hunk of pink tube-like coral but the rest was brown and looked dead. What made it better was to see the variety of fish that existed despite their destroyed habitat. Dark fish with yellow stripes, brown, white with yellow fins, all sorts. It was nice! There was a school of about 50 that ate tea buns out of our hands under water. They were very friendly. Ben cut his knee on the coral. We decided to maybe take a break... or just hang out with the fish. No sense in getting hurt.

We swam for a long time after this and then shared some food at a restaurant called Mama's. I had mixed seafood noodles. It was good. There was a variety of seafood in it, like squid, fish, prawns, etc. It was also very affordable. We spent some more time on the beach and then freshened up for dinner after returning our snorkeling gear. We had a huge seafood platter at a place called Moon Light. There was lobster, crab, fish, squid, giant prawns, and shrimp. I really enjoyed the crab.

Maia and I crashed pretty early while I think Ben and Mason had a 2-hour long discussion about Buddhism. We were well rested by the morning and ready to go by 8:00. The boys however..... late. Eventually we headed down the road to Barista, a nice coffee shop with light meals. I had an Americano (thinking of you, Max!) and waffles with chocolate sauce and whipped cream. I decided to indulge as I was on a vacation and I am so glad I did. The breakfast was to die for! It didn't keep me going as long as bacon and eggs, but that kind of thing doesn't exactly exist in many restaurants.

We returned to the beach for a majority of the day. Maia and I spent over and hour just in the waves talking. It was so fun! However, the water was dirty with plastic and other garbage. But that was only 'here and there'. It was scary because there were crabs that would latch on to our bathing suits and skin. It didn't hurt or leave marks, but was just a little spooky! I think the crabs were getting revenge on me for all the crab I ate the night before! ;)

I didn't notice the horrible burn I got until we returned to the hostel. I was beat red in the face, chest, shoulders, and back, despite putting sunscreen on well before swimming. I was also nauseous and my legs felt weak. I ate some leftovers from dinner the night before after laying down for a bit. I drank a lot of water. No dice. We caught a bus to the bus station and then walked from there to the train station. The train was on time (woo!) and we got some nice standing room. I was not okay on the train. My head was bobbing and I couldn't tell if I was just exhausted or going to pass out. Luckily a woman saw I was having a rough time and gave me a small section of her booth to sit on. This helped enormously and I felt much better by the time we arrived at Moratuwa Station. From there we took a bus to our stop and walked back to headquarters for about 5:30.

 Sunscreen and 'after sun' do not exist here. Aloe vera gel does not exist here. Sri Lankans don't burn... they just get darker! Luckily there is an actual aloe plant outside the hostel so Chandima cut some branches/leaves off and we put the fresh gel on my burned areas. Maia was also burned so she took advantage of the aloe too. It hurt so bad I could hardly wear clothes. I'm feeling a lot better on day 3, and hoping this turns into a rockin' tan. No sense being in this much pain for nothin'.

This week has not been special. There is a mother-daughter pair that is volunteering at the orphanage. It doesn't leave a lot of things to do so I find myself sitting a lot. I sorted clothes, but who knows how long that will last. I told Bandula about my concern and he said he will make some calls and get me more work. I'm jealous of my peers as they have many meetings and plans. I feel neglected, and I think Bandula acknowledged that. He said that we haven't really talked about how things are going in a couple weeks. True. Let's fix that.

I raised my concerns about the orphanage to the director, Bianca. The children have no proper discipline or respect. It makes me not want to go. Boys pull up my skirt and look under it, take out toys from the bin as others are putting them away. I got a hunk of my hair pulled out. And get this: when on the potty before showering, the kids would empty the contents of the potty on the ground, play in it and then wipe their hands on me. It's super gross. It's frustrating because I get no support from the other workers and can't communicate to anyone how disgusting, unsanitary and rude it is. Bianca seemed appalled by this and suggested I lead a work shop about how to correct the child's behavior in a positive way. Some workers spank or twist ears and that is not ok. I hope I can come up with a good workshop. I'm worried that it won't stick or be successful but at least I can try. And maybe I won't be here to see it fail in a few weeks.

Dr. DeSilva emailed me back about helping in July. He said that there is no work right now as data is still being gathered but maybe I could join on some field visits soon. I really hope he keeps to his word. I really want to do something meaningful and learn more. I feel useless right now.

Women's Movement will be going on some field visits soon... Hopefully I can tag along with them. They already said I could... but will they remember?

Karen is coming in 10 days and while she has sent me a list of things she'd like to see while she is here, I'm having a hard time planning. I'm hoping to get some guidance from the people in the office. They know a lot more about 'how to see the country' than I do. I've still got some time but want to get it done sooner rather than later.

Little points:

-I'm really enjoying tea time. Once in the morning and again in the afternoon. I don't take sugar and I think they use powdered milk, but the Ceylon tea is awesome.

-Bandula was talking about how the number of elephants post-war are much fewer than pre-war because not only was the conflict between Tamils and Sri Lankans, but between the people and elephants. I'd like to learn more about this conflict. There are some elephant orphanages in the country.

-There is a wedding on Thursday that I am attending. I am very excited to wear my fancy saree and see a real Sri Lankan wedding. They look beautiful!

-I saw a parrot on my way to work the other day. It was amazing! I wish I had my camera!

-Last week the other volunteers and I had a celebration for World Day. It was a holiday we made up  to celebrate Canada Day and 4th of July but also include those from Japan and Switzerland. We just sat in the common area and had ice cream, cake, crackers, and more. It was relaxing, but the party didn't go late.

-I am desperately in need of new clothes. I definitely did not pack enough. Originally I had the idea that I'd buy more clothes here. But they are not made for people my size because everyone here is quite short. Boo. My clothes are stained and discolored and I'm not sure if they will make it 6 more weeks! Donations are accepted!

-I will talk to Bandula about going to the north to learn more about the conflict there. He said he would speak to some people here about finding more work as well.

-There is a train strike here so I'm not sure how to get places as apparently now the buses are packed. In addition there is apparently some voting happening in the North in September. I wonder what that's about!

Hopefully my week is more exciting and I can update more!